2004 Monthly Letter
Partner In Ministry,
"And let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season
we shall reap, if we do not lose heart." Galatians 6:9
when I am teaching and observing some of the persons at the
various sessions, I "lose heart." Like at a recent
session for the Married Couples.
session always begins in a humorous way. The pastor says,
"In his travels, Ron, meets a lot of VIP's! One such VIP
is a professor of (whatever nearby college.)
Will you all please stand with me in honoring professor
Dr. Willie B. Kidding!" (Pomp and Circumstances blares
out over the sound system as Dr. Kidding pomps his way from
the back to the front of the fellowship hall.)
Dr. Kidding (me in disguise with a wig, glasses, and graduation
cap) speaking in a distinct German accent, reveals several
humorous differences between men and women from his book,
Men are from Sears and Women are from Saks. The couples go
wild with laughter!
to this frivolity, I had noticed a couple enter the room separate
from one another. During the meal, they did not speak to one
another. During Dr. Kidding's time, they did not even smile
at any of the jokes! I began to lose heart.
Both remained uncommunicative during the teaching. They were
strained to interact during the time when I ask each couple
to share the results of the survey that is used to determine
one's preferred way to have love expressed. I felt like I
was a dentist, trying to extract teeth!
a break I went to the pastor and revealed to him that this
couple who were seated at the table directly behind him, were
a burden on my heart. He discreetly located them and said,
"I am so glad to see them here. They are struggling in
their marriage." We agreed to pray for them.
As the session ended I gave each couple the opportunity to
go to the sanctuary for a time of expressing their love for
one another using the teaching of the session as a guide.
It is a time of putting into practice what each has just learned-which
is the thrust of UpBuilding Ministries.
Both the pastor and I watched this couple trudge slowing into
the sanctuary. We nodded to one another as if to say, "Okay,
Lord, it's up to You now!"
I went to the balcony and quietly began praying over all of
the couples who were huddled together below, each "aglow"
by the candle light in the dimly lit sanctuary. When I was
done, I came down and joined the pastor in his office directly
across from the sanctuary doors.
by one each couple left the sanctuary-except for this couple.
We waited for 45 minutes, eagerly watching the doors. When
they opened, this couple emerged with moistened eyes, sniffling
noses, and enjoined arms! We pretended not to notice, but
exchanged a "thumbs up!"
On Sunday morning the pastor and I observed this couple enter
the sanctuary holding hands, smiling, and quietly laughing
with one another as they sat closely together. We rejoiced!
Since then the pastor has delightfully written to me "the
Weekend was a "major break-through for this couple! Often
our Lord uses an outside speaker to say things to people who
don't hear otherwise!"
is the Reaper! Thank you for enabling me to be a planter;
even when I'm sometimes weary! Keep on doing what the Lord
has called you to do, and TRUST Him for the results!